Confessions of a Control Freak: How a Potential Weakness Has Become My Greatest Strength

I’ll admit it: I’m a control freak.

The need to manage my world runs in my DNA. And while this trait comes with some downsides – a tendency towards the obsessive, for example (read: the degree of clutter in my brain corresponds directly to the amount of clutter in my house) and a frustratingly strong will bordering on stubbornness, it also comes with some serious potential.

Anna Sweeny, the Disney Media Networks co-chair once said this:

Define success by your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live.” Over the years, I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to do just that. Harnessed properly, obsession became tenacity, and stubbornness became willpower.

Back in the day of my pharmaceutical career, I made a name and reputation for myself as someone who could come in and turn a territory around. To be fair, the hiring manager didn’t tell me that he was hiring me into a struggling territory, but really, it wouldn’t have mattered.

The rebel in me loves a good challenge! Tell this control freak she can’t do something and she’ll show you she can, no excuses, no arguments, just simple day to day actions that lead to long term results.

I know I’m not the only one wired this way! Where are my other “rebel” friends who don’t like others creating the parameters or limitations for them?

Hands up if you think challenge is spelled o-p-p-o-r-t-u-n-i-t-y!

We all have gifts that help us help others.

I believe that each of us is blessed with divinely given gifts, strengths that bless our lives and allow us to bless the lives of others. One of mine is the gift of a unique focus. Where others see obstacles, I see pathways and options. Most people’s brains work like a cell phone camera. Hold this “camera” up to an object, an obstacle, and the lens immediately focuses on that object. It becomes the biggest part of people’s “brain picture” and where all their energy goes. My brain works a little differently. My camera lens blurs out the problem to focus on the background, on the pathways around, over, under, or through it.

As a result, mountains become molehills and challenges really do become opportunities.

We can adapt, change, and grow at any age and any stage.

If this isn’t how you’re wired, don’t stress! Neuroplasticity, the brains ability to adapt and change at any age, means that it’s never too late to learn a new skill!

Stay tuned for next week’s post on how this small paradigm shift can help you be a Rockstar in 2017!

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